Judgement
Everyone want their right. Everyone want to judge others. They put themselves in a kind of role where they judge others by themselves.
I hate those. Things happen, and we are not supposed to judge anything. Except we are put in the position as a judge. If not, don't ever step to that line of judging others.
I remember i also like to judge others, saying that they deserves what they get, they need to correct things, this is their fault, but there is time when i'm just studded there, pausing, guessing, that this is wrong. This is wrong. I am not the one to judge. All i can do is to express but not to judge. I put myself behind the line so i can express my disagreement regarding certain thing, but i never, never want to judge others.
When someone do something wrong not to you, or even to you, what you can do is to express, but to make a judgement, is far beyond our power. The ultimate judgment is from Allah (God). We are not that fair, we always have bias in our judgment.
We always considering our friends to make judgment, our family, ourselves, we always bias. No one make a judgment purely for the sake of others. No one will admit.
People say you're bad, you've done the wrong thing, but who are we to say that? Who are we to say that they deserve what they get?
Personally, when someone is doing something 'wrong' or not in line with your area of control, the first thing to do is to put yourself in an empathy mode. Being in someone's shoes. Feel what they feel. And guess what we are going to do when we are in their shoes. definitely we are not going to do what we are initially want to do after that. We will not make judgment after that.
It was a horrible news i received, and many others would say it was a good news because they already bound with that judgment attitude they had. However i think, for 5 seconds, then i feel like ...disappointed.
I was crazy about people making their judgment few months ago and no one will ever know how mad and angry i am because of this. Until i wrote a 4 pages articles on this but i never publish it because i never finish the 5th page. But somehow, one day i will complete that article.
The point is, even we did not feel sorry to someone else, we must not...we must not..we must not... ever feel happy for someone else grief, to someone else disappointment, for someone else problem...
Good luck...is the last word of the conversation, and i feel my heart would drop.. how can i say good luck back? It's like mock. What am i going to say?
But i never feel happy for that. It always haunting my mine. Always.
(TTB... IHTYWSIYS.DWWAASAT) <--- its a code... i may forgot it myself after 5 minutes. but for the 10 seconds i type that, i was truely honest to myself.
I hate those. Things happen, and we are not supposed to judge anything. Except we are put in the position as a judge. If not, don't ever step to that line of judging others.
I remember i also like to judge others, saying that they deserves what they get, they need to correct things, this is their fault, but there is time when i'm just studded there, pausing, guessing, that this is wrong. This is wrong. I am not the one to judge. All i can do is to express but not to judge. I put myself behind the line so i can express my disagreement regarding certain thing, but i never, never want to judge others.
When someone do something wrong not to you, or even to you, what you can do is to express, but to make a judgement, is far beyond our power. The ultimate judgment is from Allah (God). We are not that fair, we always have bias in our judgment.
We always considering our friends to make judgment, our family, ourselves, we always bias. No one make a judgment purely for the sake of others. No one will admit.
People say you're bad, you've done the wrong thing, but who are we to say that? Who are we to say that they deserve what they get?
Personally, when someone is doing something 'wrong' or not in line with your area of control, the first thing to do is to put yourself in an empathy mode. Being in someone's shoes. Feel what they feel. And guess what we are going to do when we are in their shoes. definitely we are not going to do what we are initially want to do after that. We will not make judgment after that.
It was a horrible news i received, and many others would say it was a good news because they already bound with that judgment attitude they had. However i think, for 5 seconds, then i feel like ...disappointed.
I was crazy about people making their judgment few months ago and no one will ever know how mad and angry i am because of this. Until i wrote a 4 pages articles on this but i never publish it because i never finish the 5th page. But somehow, one day i will complete that article.
The point is, even we did not feel sorry to someone else, we must not...we must not..we must not... ever feel happy for someone else grief, to someone else disappointment, for someone else problem...
Good luck...is the last word of the conversation, and i feel my heart would drop.. how can i say good luck back? It's like mock. What am i going to say?
But i never feel happy for that. It always haunting my mine. Always.
(TTB... IHTYWSIYS.DWWAASAT) <--- its a code... i may forgot it myself after 5 minutes. but for the 10 seconds i type that, i was truely honest to myself.
hard to digest T.T
ReplyDeletesiapa jadi hakim sbnarnya ni? heheh